Don’t Say Cruel Things

Verbal abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse. If your children misbehave, avoid lashing out in a moment of anger, telling them they’re lazy or stupid — or worse, that you wish they had never been born. They might believe you.
Likewise, avoid sarcasm, name-calling or other nasty, disrespectful comments. Treat your children as you would like to be treated.

Rather than blaming, communicate your displeasure in a nonjudgmental way by explaining how your child’s behavior makes you feel.

Instead of saying: “You never think of anybody but yourself,” tell your child, “I don’t want to clean up after you.”

Or try saying: “I can’t stand all this squabbling,” instead of “You’re impossible!”